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Am I Alienating My Child?

My son is almost 8.  He has never seen a marvel movie, he has never seen episode 1,2,or 3 of Star Wars and he is not allowed to watch any shows on Cartoon Network or Sponge Bob.  He also has never seen or heard of skylanders, and we don’t have anything minecraft (gasp!)

Am I causing him to be alienated by his peers by giving him these strict viewing rules?  Am I giving him nothing to talk about with his friends from church and school? Probably.  

But I am not sorry.  There I said it!  I AM NOT SORRY!!!!!  

Sorry, I'm not sorry

I remember when I was 8, I was outside playing kickball with my brothers.  We were talking about where we would go next to play hide and seek.  My brothers talked a bit about guns or did some mock ninja fighting.  We weren’t allowed to say “butt” *don’t tell my mom I just said that* or crap.  Even with 4 brothers and no sisters, I had NEVER seen any movies or cartoons that had the level of language or violence of any of those movies or shows.

Kids now are saying cuss words at age 3 while their parents sit and laugh.  Parents are staging pictures of their babies with beer bottles and kids in kindergarten are talking about PG 13 and rated R movies that they watched with their families!

What has happened to our society?  When did it become ok to show little innocent minds such clutter?  When did it become acceptable to “be whoever you want to be” and leave your child to learn from your example?  When did we are parents loose the ability to teach morals and manners to their children.  

Braxton

Is it any wonder that the world has become what it has.  No one has the ability to show respect when they don’t agree.  They think that to be able to love someone you have to agree with EVERYTHING they do.  

Newsflash… you don’t have to agree with someone to show them respect.  Heck, you don’t even have to agree to show tolerance.  You don’t have to be a bad example to your child.  And most of all we, as adults, can teach the future generation to have manners, to love and respect the human race and to have strong morals in this world.

I am not sorry for my child not knowing what those things are, mostly because I am keeping him pure.  Rather then fill his mind with the filth and clutter of the world, I am filling it with books where he learns to be polite, I am filling him with the ability to think for himself and make judgements for himself of what is right and wrong.  I am giving him the space to build and explore with his hands rather then with a keyboard and a computer screen.

Now don’t get me wrong, he does things on the computer.  He does his math, he plays educational games and yes Minecraft can be educational, but I would rather he use his hands and his legos in his lego towers to build those towns and act out the story then sit infront of a screen and do it virtually. 

Braxton and Kiley

It is time that we as parents really own up to what we teach our kids.  This next generation is going to fight some of the biggest battles and have the hardest fights with sin.  We are responsible to teach them them how to make good choices, recognize the spirit and be responsible for the person they are and the choices they make.  

So I wont apologize for giving my kids morals.   I wont apologize for keeping their mind pure. I wont be sorry for their lack of ability to talk about these things with their friends. Because really, if they are ONLY able to talk about that, he doesn’t need to be their friend. I am not sorry that he knows more about legos and building with them then the average kid his age.  And I will not allow my kids to disrespect others just because they don’t agree with them.  

I wont ever change my mind about doing these things either, because I was raised by parents who taught me to love and be ok if someone didn’t agree with me.  I was taught to stand up for what I knew to be right no matter what.  And I was taught to always be different if it means you are choosing the right.  I will always value that and I will pass that on to my children too.



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  1. crunchymama says:

    Hmmm….. I agree with about 95% of this. 🙂

    Where I differ, I guess is here:
    “Newsflash… you don’t have to agree to show respect.”

    I’m not sure how this can possibly be a good thing. If my kids aren’t going to learn respect from my modeling and demonstrating it, can I be surprised if they don’t ever learn it?

    I’m trying to figure out how that got into the same paragraph as “You don’t have to be a bad example to our child,” as if showing respect *is* being a bad example; to me, I would be a much worse example by NOT agreeing to show respect, let along actually showing it. Perhaps I’m misunderstanding your meaning?

  2. crunchymama says:

    ….re-reading the part I had a question about, maybe it’s the wording; did you mean that “Newsflash… you don’t have to agree *in order to* show respect”? Because that would be an entirely different kettle of fish – and I agree with that 110%! 🙂

    Sorry if I misunderstood the wording.

    1. Thanks for your comments! yes, this is exactly what I mean.